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Suicide at Twenty-Two

There have been several tragedies of suicide lately. The deaths of Robin Williams, Lee Thompson Young, Karyn Washington, and Simone Battle were all, indeed, tragic. The two latter names were quite personal to me. These young ladies were around my age; they were successful, beautiful, and appeared to have life all figured out. With that being said, we have no idea the battle the person sitting next to us is fighting. There is a hurt in some people that has been suppressed and managed in a way that many individuals wouldn’t understand and don’t want to understand. It’s time to try to understand and put a halt to losing precious lives.

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Karyn Washington Source: Steinershow.org

Karyn Washington was age 22 when she committed suicide. She was a successful life and beauty blogger of the website, For Brown Girls. Karyn struggled with the death of her mother, who battled cancer for five years.

Twenty-five year old, Simone Battle, a pop star within the girl group G.R.L, committed suicide just in this month of September. Her body was found in her West Hollywood home.

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Simone Battle (G.R.L group member) Source: usmagazine.com

Beyond the Lights

This movies arrives in theaters November 14, 2014. It is the story of Noni, a superstar who has surrendered to the ideas of others. She has lost her voice and struggles to regain it. A pivotal scene within this movies involves Noni and her love interest, Kaz. Noni attempts to jump off of a balcony to committ suicide, but just as she begins to fall, Kaz catches her. As Kaz holds a dangling Noni from the balcony, he says to her, “I see you.”

Could these have been the words that these suicide victims needed to hear? Let’s really begin to see each other. You may be the voice that helps someone realize that they are important and that their lives are meaningful. Remember that. Feel free to check out the trailer Beyond the Lights below.

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
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The Wrong Mr. Right….God Said No!

There is no easy way to tell tthe right one 2his story; I’m pretty sure this has happened to more than a few people. So, there was this really cool guy who I was getting to know for a few months. I thought he was the perfect catch. I truly thought he was everything I was looking for. As you know, God is my guide to everything I do. He truly leads me in the direction I need to go; He guides my footsteps. Although I may rebel against God here and there, thinking that I control my own life, I listen to Him for the most part. I digress though. Everything seemed to be going pretty great with this guy, but God kept tugging at my heart. I prayed to God to give me the go ahead to enter into a relationship with this guy, but I never heard God say yes. In my heart, I knew that God was saying no, but I didn’t know why.

In my effort to be obedient to God, I decided to tell this guy that I was not ready for a serious relationship. I wanted to pray more about it and see if God would give me the go ahead. I was also dealing with hurt from past relationships and was trying to get through all of those emotions so that I would be completely available in my next relationship. After sharing this info with “Mr Wonderful” I started to hear less from him. I kind of understood why, but then I kind of didn’t. Were we still friends? Was he no longer interested? I didn’t know. A month went by with no contact from him, so I decided to leave the situation up to God.

Two months later, today, I had just come from a lovely breakfast with my mom for my birthday. While in the car, I decided to whip out my phone and scroll through my Instagram feed. While scrolling, I was shocked to see the guy I thought I liked so much and his new girlfriend. My first thought was, “Well dang God! Did you have to lay it on me like that!” I wasn’t upset, I just had a revelation sitting there in that car. Two months previous, I knew God was saying NO to this relationship that I thought I wanted, but I thought maybe he would change his mind. This guy wasn’t for me and God knew it. I’m thankful that God loves me so much that He’s willing to tell me the truth and also guard my heart. God really saved me from a heartbreak. He knew that I was still dealing with past hurt from a relationship previously and he just didn’t want me going through that again.

This particular guy didn’t inform me that he was dating or considering other young ladies as options for a relationship. The way I found out was very unexpected, but God prepared me for the news a long time ago. He placed it in my heart to step away from the relationship and reevaluate my feelings and listen closely to his voice. My obedience didn’t get me the guy, but I’m fine with that. Instead, my obedience to God allowed me to avoid a pain that I’ve experienced so many times in my past. Instead of listening to God, I would aim to please my fleshly desires. Of course as a young woman I want to experience romance, love, intimacy, and everything else that comes along with a relationship, but I gave up that opportunity in order to do what God desired for my life. In allowing His desires to intertwine with my own, I avoided a mistake and a major blow to the heart. WON’T HE DO IT! LOL!

All I’m trying to say is, when God speaks to you, LISTEN. Although it may not be something you want to do, He is looking out for your best interest. I remember trying to convince God that this was the right guy for me, but for some reason He didn’t think so. I could have tried to please this guy and go along with a relationship that was never meant to be, but that would have been a major mistake that I had every opportunity to avoid. Seek God first, and all else will added :)

P.S Today is my birthday…..TURN UP!

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Too Busy For God?

It’s funny how life changes. In Mali Music‘s latest song “Johnny and Donna” he says that life “flips you upside down when you’re young, when you’re old, it just spins out of control.” That’s exactly how I’ve been feeling lately. In the past month, my life has changed dramatically. I actually have to pencil in fun now-a-days.

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What I’ve been doing lately you ask? Well, I work full time (40 hours a week, sometimes 56 hours a week with overtime). I have also enrolled in school for Nursing, so I have to attend classes four days a week. I wake up every morning with bags under my eyes, always asking myself the question, “What have I done to my life?” With my 24th birthday swiftly approaching, I think I’ve entered into the realm of the “twenty something crisis.”

It seems that I’ve set the standard pretty high for myself. I’ve have reached my short term goals, but I always want to do just a little more. I have finally landed a pretty decent job after a year of searching, but I view it as a stepping stone. I’m always telling myself that there is something better out there for me. What I’m telling myself is true, there is something better for me. For the past three weeks I have been working overtime (56 hours a week.) With classes four days a week and working seven days a week  with overtime included, time seems to be slipping through my fingers. When I’m not working or going to school, all I want to do is sleep. I find myself neglecting the one who matters the most, God.

My main reason for working so much is money. The bible teaches, “You can’t worship two gods at once. Loving one god, you’ll end up hating the other. Adoration of one feeds contempt for the other. You can’t worship God and Money both.” Matthew 6:24 Although I’m extremely familiar with this teaching, I haven’t been doing very well at implementing the teaching. God is a major part of my life! So, how is it that I can’t find the time for Him in my day? The answer is, I don’t make time. I definitely notice the difference in my life when I acknowledge God DAILY and walk according to His plan DAILY.

I have felt led to cut down on overtime and make more time for God. I refuse to engulf myself into the worldly day-to-day and conform to a life that God didn’t plan for me. Romans 12:1-2 says  “So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.” It is not for me to conform to the ways of this world, but to renew my mind daily and be transformed by it.

God is your clean slate. He is the one who purifies you and makes you as white as snow. Do all things for His glory. It is easy to get caught up in life’s everyday tasks and people, but don’t get so distracted that you forget that God makes everything happen. God is your help and He’s also your friend, so treat Him as such.

My Prayer,

Heavenly Father, allow me to be busy for you, doing what glorifies you and the kingdom. Help me to renew my mind daily and make you my primary priority. Thank you Lord for sticking by my side although I don’t always give you the time due to you. Thank you for sustaining me always and being a true father to us all. Amen.

As Always,

Thanks for reading.

Be Blessed :)

 

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What’s On Your Bucket List?

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Isn’t it amazing how time flies? If I could trap time in a bottle I would, but that’s not possible. So, instead of wishing I could save time, I’ve come up with another semi great idea. I have prepared a bucket list. YES! A BUCKET LIST! Of course I’ll always be adding things to my list, but here is what I have so far.

  1.  Relocate to another state
  2. Blog for a living
  3. Swim with dolphins
  4. Inspire someone
  5. Experience surfing
  6. Tour the White House
  7. Appear on an episode of Scandal…lol
  8. Find an alternative to gasoline (gas prices are ridiculous)
  9. Travel the 50 states…ROADTRIP!
  10. Find true love
  11. Participate in a major eating contest
  12. Race fast cars
  13. Watch the Olympics, in person…
  14. Share a bank account with Oprah
  15. Dance like Beyonce’
  16. Travel to Africa (minus the Ebola virus)

That’s about all I have for now. I know some of the things on my list are a bit far fetched, but it’s always okay to dream :) Instead of wishing that you could do something, know that anything is possible. You don’t have to spend forever daydreaming; go out and make things happen. Time waits for nothing and it certainly is NOT waiting on you. So live freely, love hard, encourage often, and enjoy life.

What’s on your bucket list? Dope things I hope :)

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Dating Again? Come back Optimism!

 

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That kiss was the worst! As I sat in the pitch black movie theatre, with the smell of butter in the air, I kicked myself a trillion times. I was fifteen, boy curious, and excited to be out on my first date ever! I practically had to beg my mother to allow me to go out on a date, this date. She was livid that I was dating a senior in high school, while I was only a sophomore. Honestly, I was barely attracted to the guy, but I was in love with the idea of dating. Before we entered the theatre, he was so sweet and displayed great manners, but he flipped the script once we entered the pitch black room I now call, “THE DUNGEON.” He wanted to kiss me throughout the entire movie. I was still a bit immature and I was grossed out! I kept thinking to myself, “Why can’t we just watch this movie!” It was evident that he had other plans and I had to shut him down quickly. Needless to say, the next day at school, we were no longer dating. He was upset, I was full of regret and my dating life ceased to exist.

College dating was the worst too. Cheap dates were pretty much the norm because everyone is pretty much broke during college years. Once that refund check is spent, it’s a done deal. At the age of twenty, my junior year in college, I stopped dating again. Next month, I’ll be twenty four and it will be four years since I’ve dated anyone.

Although dating was a bit challenging for me, it was fun. I enjoyed going out to different places with someone I was interested in and enjoyed spending time with. I looked forward to getting all dressed up, going out on the town for a casual  or romantic evening. One guy I dated back in college would always catch me by surprise on the weekends. He would call me out of the blue to let me know he had purchased movie tickets or to let me know that we were going to a comedy club. I remember the butterflies I’d have right before stepping out of my front door for date night. It’s random that I’m actually thinking of reentering the world of dating.

As weird as it may sound, I’m actually kind of afraid to date again. I ask myself, “What if I’m bad at it?” “What if it’s bad for me?” I’m super awkward and shy around people I meet for the first time. I’ve been asked out on dates a few times and I’ve always declined. At my age, I think I should be taking life by every wave and riding it in towards the shore. Life is just too short to just “think” about doing something that may bring a bit of joy and excitement to your life. I’m going to actually start DOING things! I can feel the adrenaline of happiness right now. I don’t have a set goal for dating, new adventures and new people are my only motives. I’m not looking to find my Romeo, but if I do, that would be DOPE!

Maybe one day soon, I’ll have a date I can blog about…good or bad. I tell you all the little details and let you know whether I’ll be going on a second date….hmmmm….oh how I wonder :)

I always thought that in order to find Mr. Right, I had to be a prude while waiting, but that is definitely not true. Truth is this, I can be as free as I want to be, meeting new people and forming new relationships. It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it :)

What do you think about dating? Are you dating now? How’s it going? Having fun?

LET ME KNOW SOMETHING!

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As Always,

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Stay Legitimately Dope!

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Twenty Something’s: Live Life Outside Of the Box

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With my birthday rapidly approaching, I realize how fast I’ve progressed into my twenties. It seems like just yesterday I couldn’t wait to turn 21, but soon I’ll be 24! I can’t believe it; in another year I’ll hit the mid-twenties mark. Of course I had a boat load of plans for my life by the time I turned 24, but nothing ever REALLY goes according to the plan.

I thought I’d be a wife and a mother by now, but examining my life, I’m not ready for either task. I’m still barely making it out of bed on time for work and I rarely have time to eat breakfast before rushing out of the front door and speeding off towards the highway. I’m never fifteen or twenty minutes early to work and I’m usually yawning my way through the entire day. So yeah, the married life and motherhood can stand to wait.

paying-bills1Instead of working to pay for things such as clothes, shoes, manicures and pedicures, I’m now working to pay off students loans, car notes, car insurance, phone bills, etc. Today I came home and sat down to balance my check book. Today was payday so I payed the essential bills for this pay period and totaled up my expenses, this has become a bi-weekly event for me. I can say that my priorities have definitely changed lanes and with this taste of responsibility, I have also had a craving for freedom, in every way. I’ve been wondering what life really has to offer and I how I can receive the offering.

My co-worker has a saying, “Do what you want, you been doing it.” I’m going to take that saying literally. I’ve always lived in a box and I’ve never had the desire to step outside of that box until now. I don’t want to look back on my twenties, or life in general and say, “I wish I would have done this or that.” I don’t want to regret not doing something, so I’m going to do what I want. Of course anything I do will be in good taste, so LET’S GET IT!

Personal Thoughts That Stopped Me From Stepping Outside The Box:

  • People will judge me
  • I may fail
  • It’s uncomfortable/I may make others uncomfortable
  • This isn’t what I would normally do
  •  I don’t think I’m missing out on anything
  • I’d rather play it safe

These particular thoughts have held me back for years and I’m so over them. I’m over living life pretending like I’m not curious about anything and acting like I have everything in order. I’ll admit, my life consists of dirty clothes hampers, a half made bed, road rage, procrastination, insecurities, doubts, fear, half eaten meals, etc…but it’s all what makes me who I am. I thought I had life all planned out, but life said this to me, “Live A Little.” I’m getting rid of my life’s lists of where I should be at this point in my life because I have no clue. I’m going to live each day as it comes and embrace whatever the day brings. Twenty Something is not for the timid or overcautious, it’s for the curious, tenacious, trailblazer. Are you that person?

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Journey to Freedom

There is no reproach to freedom. Everyone wants to live life freely, abiding by no rules and breaking many. Freedom is a thing that can easily fall through the cracks of hands like sand.

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I am on a journey to freedom. I discovered that my past had me in shackles. Every new experience in my life has been compared to past experiences that were not so flattering. So what have I been doing to experience true freedom you ask? I’ve been chasing freedom intentionally; this is how I’m doing it.

Quiet Time:

Many believers would equate quiet time with spending time with God, but it can also be time spent with yourself. Sometimes I sit and think about the events of the day and how I reacted to certain situations. For years I’ve stuffed my feelings in an invisible box and told myself that I’d get over it. The truth is, I never did get over any of my feelings. The consequence of hiding away my feelings was emotional distress, I ra+-n away from my feelings instead of facing them. I’ve decided that in my quiet time, I will address every feeling that I feel throughout the day or week. I ask myself if my feelings are legitimate, or if I’m just overreacting. If my feelings are legitimate, I acknowledge them and their significance. I’m freeing my emotions.

Exercise:

College was fast food heaven and I never thought about working out. Life after college was a bit uncomfortable; I couldn’t fit any of my clothes and I was overweight. Once I discovered exercise, it became like a best friend. Exercise helps me relieve stress and maintain the health of my body. Being in shape and exercising helps me physically, mentally, and emotionally. I’m freeing my body.

Hobbies:

Hobbies are always great! Find something that you love doing and something that makes you happy. Personally, I enjoy blogging and writing about my life journey and lessons. What do you enjoy? Whatever it is, you’ll find freedom in it because it’s something you actually like doing. I enjoy singing also; sometimes I put on my headphones and zone out, or I dance around the house to some upbeat music and vibe. It’s all about what you love to do; don’t let the distractions of life like work, school, etc. stop you from enjoying the freedom in the things you love.

The Great Outdoors:

God has created such a beautiful earth, it’s time we start REALLY living in it. The other day I went to a track/park for a run at about 8:30 AM. The air seemed fresher than ever, the birds were chirping, the sun was shining and the temperature was cooler than usual. Everything about the outdoors was great that morning; it was so great that I had to have a devotion immediately after my run, after I showered of course…lol! I find the beauty in rainy days too, sometimes I lay in bed and listen to the raindrops on the rooftop, or I open the window and listen to all the little sounds that nature plays, the crickets seem to be the loudest.

These are just a few things that I’ve been implementing in my life to experience a hint of freedom. Life is so much more than that 9 to 5 you and I are working. There is freedom around every corner. It’s up to you to go out and find it! I’m finding it one day at a time :)

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Be Blessed :)

 

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